We seek the approval of our own parents, while they seek the approval of theirs. This is just the pattern, the motif of human life. There is nothing wrong with it.
We are all Approved by our mutually endowed Presence. Approved in our disapproval of self and others. We cannot force ourselves to feel approval. Thus, we cannot blame ourselves for any lack thereof.
Approval will come to the mind if and when it comes. All we can do in the meantime is understand that we are Loved in our “unlove.” We are Cherished in our “rejection.” We are Held in our “forsakenness.” We are Approved by the loving parent of our own profound Presence.